Romantic Bedroom for Valentine’s Day

Expo 2020 Dubai World Fair

Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda

Pool Party Recap and Upcoming Events

VelvetLips Guest Blogger: Make Your Own Porn!

The Bomber and The Belle Guest Bloggers: 5 ACTUAL Tips for Guys Who Go Soft

VelvetLips Guest Blogger: Too Busy for Sex?

Rachel Kaufman: Healing Techniques Workshop

Travel, Relationships, and Sex

Healing Benefits of Energy Medicine, Reflexology, and Reiki

A little lighting goes a long way!

Are you getting ready for the ultimate Valentine’s Day with your significant other? The Amour Getaways tribe would like to remind you that details matter. After you spend a romantic day with your sweetie, imagine stepping into a room that caters to all of your senses. No really, imagine that alluring ambiance!

Maybe you had a long day of work, family responsibilities, or you are just tired of being a BOSS. Imagine unwinding from your day and stepping into a space that is mysterious, yet enticing. Imagine the mood enhancing lights caressing your lover’s soft skin as your desire increases and the sensuous music dances around you. Imagine. Feel It.

Are you ready to set up the perfect ambiance for you and/or your significant other? Or are you getting ready to host a group of like-minded friends in the lifestyle? Any way that you decide to spend the evening, the Bomber from the Black and Kinky Lifestyle podcast has written a great article that can be applied to any kind of intimate situation!

Check out his 3 Tips for Spicing Up Your Room.

Expo 2020 Dubai World Fair October 20,
2020-April 10, 2021. 190+ countries, 200+ restaurants, 60+ shows daily

Every five years or so, since 1851, countries of the world have come together in an elaborate, months-long celebration of human achievement. Known as World Fairs or World Expos, these events have debuted transformative innovations and iconic buildings, while connecting global communities in the pursuit of universal goals.

In this tradition, Dubai will host what promises to be an HISTORIC WORLD PARTY for six months, October 20, 2020-April 10, 2021.

Book an Expo 2020 Dubai package today!! 

Ask us about all of our available packages.

Eiffel Tower Space Needle
The Eiffel Tower was built for
the World’s Fair of 1889.
The Space Needle was built for
the World’s Fair of 1962.
1876 telephone 1893 Ferris Wheel FDR televised from 1939 World's Fair
The telephone debuted
to the public at the
1876 World’s Fair
in Philadelphia.
The Ferris Wheel was
introduced in Chicago
at the 1893 World’s Fair.
FDR’s televised
opening of the 1939
World’s Fair in NYC
introduced TV to the
public at large.
What exciting new developments and
extraordinary feats of engineering and design will be revealed at the next
World's Fair, EXPO 2020 Dubai?

Let us book your trip to the next World’s Fair, EXPO 2020.

Join an Amour Getaways group during October 2021

An exclusive all-inclusive resort on the shores of the Caribbean Sea set in the most exotic natural environment. Enjoy a family vacation at Paradisus Playa del Carmen La Esmeralda to create the best of memories.

Have you heard the lastest Black n Kinky podcast episode with the Belle and the Bomber?  They describe some of the fun they had at our 1st Afro Caribbean Pool Party in Stafford, VA. CLICK HERE to listen.

Thank You to those of you who met with the Amour Getaways tribe in Laurel at our Hotel Social.  We also still have space at the upcoming Cabin Getaway.  You will not want to miss our bonus workshop on the art of Firting and Squirting with Sex Educator Marla Stewart of the Sex Down South Conference.  

Did you know that you can create a free sexy profile on the Amour Getaways platform?  Click Here for a sneak peak but remember, you must be an approved member to see Standard and VIP Member profiles.  If you would like to check out all of the features of becomng a VIP Member, please enter the word Newsletter in the Promo Code area to recieve a free 2-week trial (Expires Sept. 30, 2019).    If you like what you see and would like to offer this same opportunity to other like-minded friends, feel free to share the Promo Code through the end of the month.  

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Marla Stewart in Sex Arsenal Blog

After I spoke at the Frost Science Museum in Miami about the Science of Seduction, I had all sorts of people coming up to me asking me different questions.  There was this beautiful, young couple who approached me about watching porn.  The young woman didn’t want her boyfriend watching porn because she felt like that was cheating on her.  She prompted that he didn’t need to cheat on her with the porn because she would be available for him to do whatever he pleased.

He claimed that because they both live with their parents, he found the porn to be convenient when he needed to relieve that sexual tension.  He didn’t feel like it was cheating and he felt fine consuming the type of porn he was watching.

My suggestion?  Make your own porn!

That way, he can look at it when he’s not around her and therefore, she would feel like he’s not cheating on her because he’ll be looking at her body and not anyone else’s.  She was super excited to get that done and I felt like I helped a couple find another way to bond when they aren’t around each other.

For those of you who are interested, here are some tips for making your sex videos!

Set the Scene.  In the videos, you do not want distractions.  For instance, you probably would prefer not to have pictures of your kids and family members in the background, a messy bedroom, or an open closet.  Clutter-free is better unless there are some sex toys that you’d like to have placed for strategical distractions.

Get Many Perspectives.  There aren’t a lot of films that are made with a female point-of-view, so I think this one would be useful when you’re trying to turn on your woman.  Have her hold the camera/phone for this particular aspect.  Going through many positions can ensure that you have a variety of perspectives and if you have the whole place to yourself, you can definitely get in many different scenes for different feels.  Don’t forget to share the camera!

Use Your Private Storage.  I know some of you probably know this already, but using your work phone for personal use is a no-go.  Also, using your personal phone on company wi-fi is a no-go.  Do not store your videos on your work computer or in work folders.  Make sure that you have your own personal cloud storage or private hard drive that you can put your videos on.  For those folks who are exhibitionists, feel free to let that freak flag fly and release that video how you please!  As long as no one is harmed from it, I’m all for it!

Watch & Enjoy!  Yes, most of us have body image issues, but the point of the porn is to really get turned on by you and your lover(s) and see/embody the sexual chemistry that you all have.  Take this as an opportunity to experience your lover(s) in a different way and check it off your sexual bucket list!


Cheers to your sexual success! 

The Bomber in the Black n Kinky Lifestyle Podcast

Real talk for the fellas out there. Consider the following scenario: You have an attractive woman in the playroom with you now. All the drinks, dancing, talking, flirting, touching, and kissing has led to this moment. Y’all kissing, you getting aroused, you feeling on her round booty while she is stroking your jump-off. She starts getting undressed. You start by going down on her and working your magic. Her moaning is telling you you are doing your thing. So far so good.

But, once you get up to give her the business something odd happens. Perhaps it is a call on your phone, an odd look she gives your penis when you pull your pants down, a noise from the next bed, a chick that is moaning much louder than the one you are messing with bringing with it a thought of insecurity. What it is, does not matter, but whatever it is, it has taken you out of the moment.

Your erection goes from 100 to 80%. “Oh no” wait a minute, no you can’t go soft right now, *down to 75%*. She asks you if there is anything wrong. You lie and say no. *Down to 70%*. “Holy fuck” it is going down and down quick. You try to get yourself together, but the thought of failing has now implanted itself in your brain and is multiplying. “Nooo not now!” *Down to 65%*. Now the familiar feeling of panic has gripped you and you can feel beads of sweat forming on your head.

You struggle to find a condom quickly, because you know if you don’t get it on now, you are screwed. *60%*. Where the hell did you put your play bag. Oh there it is. You are now having difficulty opening the wrapper. Dam, why did this chick have to cream on your fingers so much. Oh snap she is totally ready for you and waiting. OMG! She is waiting, she is waiting for that dick and you are failing. Your hands shake as you try to get the condom on. Fuck! You are now at 55%. You can do it though, the condom reluctantly slides on like it knows it did not sign up for this bullsh*t.

You open those legs to give it to her. If you can only get it in and get your rhythm going, everything will be alright. But you try to push it in, it goes in for a little while, she moans. Man she must be faking it, this is not me right now. *50%* . It bends and slips out. Now she knows. *45%*. She backs up and gets you on your back. She is frustrated. No, she is going to give you head. That’s good. She takes the condom off to give you head. You are trying to enjoy it, but you just can’t shake the feeling that it is a pitty blow job. A blow job that is necessary but not wanted. Now, even as it is in her mouth you are falling and rapidly approaching 30%…20….10. Now there is no controlling it. Despite the intensity in which her head is bobbing up and down on your dick, you are not responding. Now there is no denying it. The lips are among the most sensitive parts of the body and your dick is ratting on you like it got caught up with the feds. It is saying to her that you failed, you are a loser, you blew it…

The lifestyle has shown me that being able to maintain an erection is a struggle that many men face. Especially when 1) they are in environments where they may be watched and are plagued by the pressures to perform like porn stars in front of an adoring crowd, 2) they might have one shot to impress a new partner with their sexual prowess and 3) they often have to put on a condom which, although necessary, can be Kryptonite to your average stiffy. Erectile dysfunction is a real problem among many men, and often it can have some reasonably clear physiological causes. But this post is not for those men. I am speaking to all the men out there that got an unwelcome visit from the flaccid fairy during those critical moments in the bedroom. This post is for those who don’t know what to do when, out of nowhere, IT GOES SOFT.

The internet is full of advice about what to do about ED, and honestly, none of it was helpful for me. You hear the same old tale of eating right, exercising, losing weight, reducing your alcohol intake blah blah mothaf*cking blah. I know plenty of men that are very much in shape, have not touched a drug in their lives, and they are still not immune to occasional break out of limpdicktitis. Not to say that these health habits are not important, but they are not the answer to everything. So I decided to close the gap and provide an honest set of tips and guidelines on how to deal with deadbeat erections with a habit of abandoning us when we need them most.

  1. Your flaccid Johnson is not the enemy, erectile anxiety is, and it must be killed on sight. You must consider it as something outside of yourself and it must be discarded, marched into the woods, shot and buried 6 feet deep. Then you have to find it’s family and friends and make an example out of them too! If you see it creeping up, your primary objective is to fight it back, trying to get hard is secondary and cannot happen in the presence of your enemy. Arousal and worrying about whether you will get hard tonight, can rarely exist in the same space.
  2. Recognize that Hard d*ck dependency can be another form of sexual dysfunction. Do not chase after a hard dick and neglect your flaccid one. Both are important and are deserving of appreciation and attention. If it’s not hard, pull other tricks out of your bag and focus on those. Through that focus, arousal is more likely to come naturally. Eat, finger, touch, caress, lick, massage and allow tension to build. Somebody got excited reading that one ;).  You will find that many of the sexiest experiences you can have does not always require you to “stick it in.
  3. When your body says “no” it means “NO!”: You can rarely force an erection so stop trying. It is like committing a sexual assault on yourself. Think about the last time you wacked it. *Likely within the last hour if you are a man reading this right now.* When you are sitting down and watching porn, count how many times you had to think yourself into getting hard. Arousal usually does not take a lot of thinking, although it can benefit from a bit of imagination.
  4. Get comfortable with the situation and confident in your sexuality. This might be difficult when going soft at first, but there are things you can do to practice. Try meditating 5-10 minutes a day. Search for apps on mediation and there are also YouTube videos that provide some good guiding tips. These may help you build a habit of appreciating the NOW and being PRESENT. It also helps avoid negative thoughts (including those about your missing erection) from distracting you from the buffet of sexiness that might be before you. It may *and prepare yourself for this one* allow you to fully accept and embrace the possibility that, you may not be engaging in full penetrative sex at the moment. Might not be ideal, but it is better than walking with your head down, ruminating on your failures as the mandingo super fly sexual beast you were born to be, and annoying your partner with excuses and excessive claims about how “this usually doesn’t happen.
  5. Magic pills can be effective but dangerous, so do your research. There are plenty of supplements and drugs on the market that can give you the edge to turn your hank into a Hulk with plenty of stamina behind him. However, there are a few things to know about these methods. Supplements may not be FDA approved and may carry some health risks. But they can be very effective at making it easy to get stiffer and long-lasting erections and can remain active in your system for a few days. Some of the more popular brands include Rhino’s, Horny goat weed, and Extenze. You can purchase these online or at just about any gas station.  Drugs like Viagra and Cialis have also been effective for men suffering from ED. Cialis has been rated better than Viagra, as it may last longer and give you more control over your erection. Don’t even think about taking any of this stuff without consulting with a medical professional! You need to be alive to get it in, so be careful out there.


The Bomber!

For more tips from the Bomber and the Belle, check out The Black n Kinky Lifestyle Podcast

I read an article this past week about a 100-year-old sex therapist who is still practicing.  She’s practiced so long that she’s seen the changes from the “frantic” sexual revolution to the current information age where people are constantly busy in the rat race.  So busy, in fact, that people are having less sex because they’re too tired or stressed or inundated with so much information that their mind doesn’t want to go there because sex is almost burdensome, as just another “thing” on their list.

If this is something that you have been through or if it’s something that you are currently going through, here are some strategies to help you boost your sex life.

#1 – Embrace a “no technology day.”  With all the information being thrown at us, getting rid of your technology for a day helps you to find other ways to get connected.  Going out with friends, spending quality time with your partner or doing something creative will help you take your mind off of your cell phone and other technological distractions.   Another strategy would also be to turn off your cell phone for a certain period of time every single day and make a habit out of spending quality time with your lover.

#2 – Plant a sex seed.  If sex is on your mind, warm them up by planting a sex seed.  A sex seed could be anything from a sexy note or text in the morning to bigger hints, like leaving a sex toy somewhere where your partner can find it.  Whatever it is, use the sex seed as a hint so that sex will be on their mind all day.  Whether you have sex that day or not, at least, it will be on their mind and hopefully, follow-through will happen within the next two days.  Look at it as long-term foreplay. J

#3 – Learn to say “no” and limit the amount of things that you are involved in.  This is personally a hard one for me because I love taking on new projects and working on all sorts of things.  However, getting involved in too many things hinders the amount of time that you could be having sex.  In addition, if you’re partnered, sharing household responsibilities also helps to free up time for more sex.

Using these 3 tactics will help revitalize your sex life because not only are you limiting the amount of stress in your life, but you are also creating space for new and exciting things for your sexual life.  Being creative with your life helps you to manage all the things in your life, all while making minimal effort.

Cheers to your sexual success!

Rachel Kaufman is a Usui Reiki Master, a Mahatma Reiki Practitioner, and a Certified Reflexologist (Ingham method). She has been practicing Reiki since 2001 and Reflexology since 2006.

Rachel studied the art and science of Essential Oils for mental, physical and emotional issues at Tulsi Holistic Living, and with Alchemist Mikael Zayat, and often incorporates essential oils into treatment sessions to deepen healing benefits. She studied basic Shamanic healing techniques with Alberto Villoldo at the Omega Institute in NY. Rachel is also trained in the use of the Aqua Detox Foot Bath, which helps remove toxins and acidity from the body.

Her intention during a session is to provide a safe space for her clients to heal, relax, re-balance, and expand. Rachel is known among her peers and clients to be warm-hearted, caring, an intuitive healer and a good listener. She encourages clients to listen to and trust their bodies and their intuition. Rachel offers suggestions for self-care and healing at home, and if needed, provides clients with referrals to trusted naturopathic physicians, acupuncturists, and other healers in the community.

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Rachel Kaufman’s Heeling Vibes Website

Healing Techniques Workshop for Couples in Potomac, MD

What do couples have to say about the Amour Getaways Healing Techniques workshop?

Healing benefits of Energy Medicine, Reflexology, and Reiki.

1 on 1 Couples Healing Technique Session for  Amour Getaways Clients

Image:  Couples Resorts


According to the US Travel Association, travel has a positive effect on relationships.  Traveling with your partner forces you to naturally spend more “alone” time together and you learn more about your partner.  You build trust in one another as you embark in new experiences which is crucial to keeping the spark alive.  This in turn will allow you to have better, more fulfilling sex lives.

Key research findings of couples who travel together report:

What are you waiting for?  Start creating memories and book your next getaway with Amour Getaways today!

There are many factors that affect a person’s overall happiness and health.  In order to be able to connect with your partner on a deeper level, you have to find balance within yourself first.  Learning different healing techniques will help your overall life and if you and your partner do this together, you will be more in tune with one another by bring you closer together.

Below are several healing modalities that you will learn at Amour Getaways’ Healing Techniques Workshop for Couples in Potomac, MD.

Energy Medicine

Energy Medicine utilizes techniques from time-honored traditions such as acupuncture, yoga, kinesiology, and qi gong. Flow, balance, and harmony can be  non-invasively restored and maintained within an energy system by tapping, massaging, pinching, twisting, or connecting specific energy points (acupoints) on the skin; by tracing or swirling the hand over the skin along specific energy pathways; through exercises or postures designed for specific energetic effects; by focused use of the mind to move specific energies; and/or by surrounding an area with healing energies.

Energy Medicine recognizes energy as a vital, living, moving force that determines much about health and happiness.

To maintain vibrant health, the body needs its energies to:


Reflexology is the science based on the principle that each part of the feet, hands and ears are related to every organ, gland and body part. As your feet, hands and ears are reflexed (via finger pressure and thumb walking), your energy pathways unblock and your body awakens to self-healing. Reiki energy is often incorporated into the reflexology session as well.

Reflexology is beneficial for:


Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy. Reiki is a simple, natural and safe method of spiritual healing and self-improvement that people can learn to use on themselves. It also works in conjunction with all other medical or therapeutic techniques to relieve side effects and promote recovery.

Reiki is beneficial for:

If you are ready to join 3-4 couples in a Healing Techniques Workshop in the DC Metro area, please CLICK HERE to learn more.

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Does energy healing really work? The Daily News puts four methods to the test 

5 Reasons to Give Energy Healing a Try

Our best lifestyle get a way ever. This is a great group & everything was fun from start to finish. We’ll definitely be back for more. Don’t hesitate to go to any Amour Getaways function.


C and D, Ohio 4/2017


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