VelvetLips Guest Blogger: Simple Sex Club Etiquette

VelvetLips Guest Blogger: My Visit to the World Erotic Art Museum in Miami

I’ve been to many, many, sex clubs and they all have their own little unique quirks.  Every single one of them are fun in their own way.  Some of have dungeons, some have private and group sex rooms, and some have pools, hot tubs, and buffets.

Whether you’ve been to a sex club in your past or you’re curious about what a sex club is like, here are a few simple rules to follow when you attend:

  • Activate your extrovert. Most people who go to the sex clubs are generally extroverted and love to socialize.  If you are an introvert, this is a good time to activate and practice your social skills, especially since most people tend to be ultra-friendly in these clubs.  Engage like you have never engaged before. What do you have to lose?
  • Be open to the possibilities. Not only should you try to be open to being looked at, but you should try to be open to looking and venturing out to see what kind of things you can get into.  There have been some times where I’ve walked in with my riding crop and was able to spank random folks for fun.
  • Be respectful and don’t yuck someone else’s yum. Remember, there are all sorts of people that are in these environments, so it’s best to come into these spaces with a non-judgmental attitude about whatever sexual acts that may occur.  Like you, we all have our different quirks that turn us on, so respect other people who foster their own sexual desires.
  • Accept “No” for an answer. If you’re like me, you might get aggressive when flirting with someone.  Or maybe you are so attracted to someone that you just want to jump their bones right then and there.  Either way, you need to understand that they might not want you.  That’s right.  Although you may think you are fantastic, you have to understand that not everyone would be into you and who you are.  And that’s okay.  Like Paulo Coelho says, “don’t take it personal.”  Take it as a sign as there are bigger and better things coming your way and that “no” has just put you on to an even more wonderful opportunity.  Remember, when one door shuts, another one opens, so go find that door.
  • It’s not a competition. Some folks want to go into sex clubs hoping that they can beat the world record on how many people they can fuck in a night.  You don’t have to do that.  I mean, it’s okay if you want to, but know that no one else is competing in this so-called competition.  The point of being here is to have fun, let loose, and enjoy the experience.  This is a place where everyone gets a ribbon.  😉

If you do these things, you are sure to have a good time at the sex club.  Just know that you don’t have to be pressured into doing anything that you don’t want to do.  Invoke your sexual desires, but be okay with rejection.  Everyone is there to have fun, and so should you.

Cheers to your sexual success!

If Tia and I could have our TV show, it most likely would be us traveling the world showcasing all the various sexual content that people have created over the years.20180116_195159

We’re not the only ones fascinated by erotic art and amazement, and the fact that there’s sex museums all over the world is a clear indicator that there will always be a need for folks to embrace all sorts of sexual things.

As some of you know, I want to expand my reach to Fort Lauderdale and Miami, so I’ve been doing some slight scouting and trying to network with other sexuality educators in the area.  I’m still unsure if there is anyone out here that is doing what I’m doing, but it’s worth looking into!  You know I love a good collaborator!

Unbeknownst to me, there is a World Erotic Art Museum located in Miami Beach!  My girlfriend took me out there to check it out and I must say, it really had some unique pieces of art!

There were some really old pieces of art, as well as contemporary art, so the range of art was quite eclectic.  I’ve been to the two museums in Amsterdam, as well as the Museum of Sex in New York, and honestly, this one probably had the most vulvas.  With any museum, you always see penises outnumbering vulvas like crazy, so it was great to see a decent amount of them at WEAM.  It totally made me have the idea of opening up a museum with all vulvas and vulva art.  (Anyone out there listening?)

We spent a good two hours in there, but I’m sure that you could take a little longer in there, if you wish.

20180116_195516By far, my favorite piece of artwork was the sculpture with all the various types of vulvas.  Whenever I’m trying to explain the different types of vulvas for my pussy pleasing workshop, some folks don’t really know what I’m talking about because they probably have never had that much experience with various types of vulvas and clitoris sizes.  If I had this piece, I could totally just point it out!

As social media goes, I’m unable to post the sexy and erotic pics, but luckily for you, I can share them via my Google Drive!  You can check them out HERE!

And remember, whenever you’re traveling, see if they have an erotic art or a sex museum!  You just might get lucky!

Cheers to your sexual success!


Shon and I would like to give a special shout out to Amour Getaways for setting up the Rustic Cabin Getaway in Berkeley Springs, WV. It was our first trip to a clothing optional experience and it was a pleasure working with the host. [Amour Getaways] was professional, organized, and made sure that we had everything that we needed for a stress-free and sensual experience.  [They are] very knowledgeable about the location and advised us of everything the area had to offer. We are looking forward to many more great experiences with Amour Getaways.


T. Reed and Shon, Virginia 8/2018


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