AG Experiences: Sex Education by Marla Stewart and Berkeley Springs, WV (9/19/19 Mailout)

VelvetLips Guest Blogger: Make Your Own Porn!

VelvetLips Guest Blogger: Simple Sex Club Etiquette

Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator. Not only is she a lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. Gaining her reputation for being “The Sex Architect”, she created Velvet Lips to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives.  Learn More

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After I spoke at the Frost Science Museum in Miami about the Science of Seduction, I had all sorts of people coming up to me asking me different questions.  There was this beautiful, young couple who approached me about watching porn.  The young woman didn’t want her boyfriend watching porn because she felt like that was cheating on her.  She prompted that he didn’t need to cheat on her with the porn because she would be available for him to do whatever he pleased.

He claimed that because they both live with their parents, he found the porn to be convenient when he needed to relieve that sexual tension.  He didn’t feel like it was cheating and he felt fine consuming the type of porn he was watching.

My suggestion?  Make your own porn!

That way, he can look at it when he’s not around her and therefore, she would feel like he’s not cheating on her because he’ll be looking at her body and not anyone else’s.  She was super excited to get that done and I felt like I helped a couple find another way to bond when they aren’t around each other.

For those of you who are interested, here are some tips for making your sex videos!

Set the Scene.  In the videos, you do not want distractions.  For instance, you probably would prefer not to have pictures of your kids and family members in the background, a messy bedroom, or an open closet.  Clutter-free is better unless there are some sex toys that you’d like to have placed for strategical distractions.

Get Many Perspectives.  There aren’t a lot of films that are made with a female point-of-view, so I think this one would be useful when you’re trying to turn on your woman.  Have her hold the camera/phone for this particular aspect.  Going through many positions can ensure that you have a variety of perspectives and if you have the whole place to yourself, you can definitely get in many different scenes for different feels.  Don’t forget to share the camera!

Use Your Private Storage.  I know some of you probably know this already, but using your work phone for personal use is a no-go.  Also, using your personal phone on company wi-fi is a no-go.  Do not store your videos on your work computer or in work folders.  Make sure that you have your own personal cloud storage or private hard drive that you can put your videos on.  For those folks who are exhibitionists, feel free to let that freak flag fly and release that video how you please!  As long as no one is harmed from it, I’m all for it!

Watch & Enjoy!  Yes, most of us have body image issues, but the point of the porn is to really get turned on by you and your lover(s) and see/embody the sexual chemistry that you all have.  Take this as an opportunity to experience your lover(s) in a different way and check it off your sexual bucket list!


Cheers to your sexual success! 

I’ve been to many, many, sex clubs and they all have their own little unique quirks.  Every single one of them are fun in their own way.  Some of have dungeons, some have private and group sex rooms, and some have pools, hot tubs, and buffets.

Whether you’ve been to a sex club in your past or you’re curious about what a sex club is like, here are a few simple rules to follow when you attend:

  • Activate your extrovert. Most people who go to the sex clubs are generally extroverted and love to socialize.  If you are an introvert, this is a good time to activate and practice your social skills, especially since most people tend to be ultra-friendly in these clubs.  Engage like you have never engaged before. What do you have to lose?
  • Be open to the possibilities. Not only should you try to be open to being looked at, but you should try to be open to looking and venturing out to see what kind of things you can get into.  There have been some times where I’ve walked in with my riding crop and was able to spank random folks for fun.
  • Be respectful and don’t yuck someone else’s yum. Remember, there are all sorts of people that are in these environments, so it’s best to come into these spaces with a non-judgmental attitude about whatever sexual acts that may occur.  Like you, we all have our different quirks that turn us on, so respect other people who foster their own sexual desires.
  • Accept “No” for an answer. If you’re like me, you might get aggressive when flirting with someone.  Or maybe you are so attracted to someone that you just want to jump their bones right then and there.  Either way, you need to understand that they might not want you.  That’s right.  Although you may think you are fantastic, you have to understand that not everyone would be into you and who you are.  And that’s okay.  Like Paulo Coelho says, “don’t take it personal.”  Take it as a sign as there are bigger and better things coming your way and that “no” has just put you on to an even more wonderful opportunity.  Remember, when one door shuts, another one opens, so go find that door.
  • It’s not a competition. Some folks want to go into sex clubs hoping that they can beat the world record on how many people they can fuck in a night.  You don’t have to do that.  I mean, it’s okay if you want to, but know that no one else is competing in this so-called competition.  The point of being here is to have fun, let loose, and enjoy the experience.  This is a place where everyone gets a ribbon.  😉

If you do these things, you are sure to have a good time at the sex club.  Just know that you don’t have to be pressured into doing anything that you don’t want to do.  Invoke your sexual desires, but be okay with rejection.  Everyone is there to have fun, and so should you.

Cheers to your sexual success!

So glad we found [Amour Getaways]! Great people, great vibe, positive energy and oh so welcoming. The WV cabin getaway is awesome! Thanks so much for a great time! We will definitely make travel plans when they are hosting.


E and J, Texas 8/2018


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